September 13th, 2007 Jamie
If you’re feeling lonely or out of place, I promise you, you aren’t the only one. In fact, pretty much every college freshman feels lonely at one time or another—you’re in a new place, probably pretty far away from your family and friends, and there are hundreds or thousands of people here that you don’t know.
Luckily for you, college is one of the best places to meet people, because everyone else is going through the same things. College friends are usually different than high school friends because you are so much more mature when your friendships start. You’ll probably meet people in these next couple years who will be your closest friends for years to come; you just need to know where to look.
Leave Your Door Open
One of the easiest ways to meet people is to leave your door open when you’re in your room. It’s a signal that you’re open to meeting people. Unless you have an unusually antisocial floor, your floormates will stop by to say hi, borrow stuff they’ve forgotten, or ask what song you’re listening to. Easy easy easy. (But remember to close and lock your door when you leave.)
It can be hard to put yourself out there, but if you’re feeling shy, other people probably are, too. Try to introduce yourself to people on your floor, in your classes, and around campus.
Don’t Make Snap Judgments
Okay, I have to tell you not to do this, because I did it. There was a girl named Carrie a floor above me who seemed really cliquish and snobby. I never introduced myself to her because I completely pre-judged her. After a couple months of feeling like I hadn’t really made any good friends, she came up to me after a class and asked how I’d done on a hard paper we’d just gotten back. We started talking, and she turned out to be really cool—in fact, she was the first close friend I made in college. So give everyone a fighting chance.
Because college is so big, and has so many people, you might notice that it is hard for a group to just form out of nowhere. You can’t meet anyone if you lock yourself up in your room surfing Facebook or playing video games all day, so make an effort to find likeminded people. Go to activities and test out as many clubs as interest you. I know it’s hard to walk into a roomful of strangers and try to fit in, but if you don’t try you’ll miss out on meeting a lot of great people. My freshman year I attended meetings of a service club, a poetry club, and a crocheting/knitting club. I joined the backstage crew for an on-campus play, went to church, and joined a committee that helped choose the next year’s RAs. I only stuck with some of these, but they all gave me the opportunity to get to know a lot of really fun people, some of whom are still good friends.
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