Comments on: Tests and Tragedy: Coping with College when Trouble Hits at Home http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/ An inside look at college life: dorms, roommates, finals, study tips, and how to get through it all. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 10:15:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Daniel Alderman http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-11071 Daniel Alderman Sun, 28 Jun 2009 17:42:37 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-11071 Absolutely true. My mother died while I was attending school. It was very difficult, and I wound up dropping my harder classes because I just couldn't cope with it. School itself is very stressful and losing a parent is one of the most stressful things a person can go through. Tell your professors. Tell your dean. They will, hopefully, be very understanding and provide you with options that will relieve some of the stress. I thought that I could just get back to it. I gave myself the corporate mandated (at least at my old corporate job) three days of mourning. I'd only missed one biology class and I went into class and told my professor what had happened before class. She was very compassionate and told me to get out of there. Three days was not enough, she said. We'd talk later. It was a great relief. She wound up letting me drop the class and retake it. I had no idea it would take 2 weeks to be functional again... Good advice. Thank you for posting. Absolutely true.

My mother died while I was attending school. It was very difficult, and I wound up dropping my harder classes because I just couldn’t cope with it. School itself is very stressful and losing a parent is one of the most stressful things a person can go through.

Tell your professors. Tell your dean. They will, hopefully, be very understanding and provide you with options that will relieve some of the stress.

I thought that I could just get back to it. I gave myself the corporate mandated (at least at my old corporate job) three days of mourning. I’d only missed one biology class and I went into class and told my professor what had happened before class. She was very compassionate and told me to get out of there. Three days was not enough, she said. We’d talk later. It was a great relief. She wound up letting me drop the class and retake it. I had no idea it would take 2 weeks to be functional again…

Good advice. Thank you for posting.

]]> By: Jamie http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-8466 Jamie Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:47:56 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-8466 I'm so glad that you found this article helpful. It was hard to write, but it also felt good. Sangeeta, I think an article about handling breakups and/or depression in college is a great idea. I'll get right on that! I’m so glad that you found this article helpful. It was hard to write, but it also felt good. Sangeeta, I think an article about handling breakups and/or depression in college is a great idea. I’ll get right on that!

]]> By: Sangeeta http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-8459 Sangeeta Fri, 01 Aug 2008 15:57:40 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-8459 Thank you so much for this website. I'm reading this after failing a year of college but I swear...college was unbearably painful this past year because I underwent a breakup and then went into depression. maybe you could write about how to handle that? thanks anyway, it's taught me a lot Thank you so much for this website. I’m reading this after failing a year of college but I swear…college was unbearably painful this past year because I underwent a breakup and then went into depression. maybe you could write about how to handle that? thanks anyway, it’s taught me a lot

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-1547 Elizabeth Tue, 26 Feb 2008 07:11:09 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/10/tests-and-tragedy-coping-with-college-when-trouble-hits-at-home/#comment-1547 Thank you so much for writing this! I am in my first year of college and right before my senior year of high school, a lot of major tragedy hit my family, including deaths and my mother's second bout of breast cancer. We have just been dealt two new blows and I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately. Reading this article has helped me so much....there are things here that I didn't even think of that could help me so much! Thank you so much for writing this! I am in my first year of college and right before my senior year of high school, a lot of major tragedy hit my family, including deaths and my mother’s second bout of breast cancer. We have just been dealt two new blows and I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately. Reading this article has helped me so much….there are things here that I didn’t even think of that could help me so much!

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