Comments on: Five College Relationship Mistakes you Might be Making http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/ An inside look at college life: dorms, roommates, finals, study tips, and how to get through it all. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 10:37:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: “Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.” « Life is relationships, the rest is just details… http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/#comment-11894 “Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.” « Life is relationships, the rest is just details… Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:09:49 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/#comment-11894 [...] going to be easy, but there is help out there to make it a little easier. Who said you can’t survive college; It just takes listening, hard work, love, care, and responsibility. Dont forget about the useful [...] [...] going to be easy, but there is help out there to make it a little easier. Who said you can’t survive college; It just takes listening, hard work, love, care, and responsibility. Dont forget about the useful [...]

]]> By: Jamie http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/#comment-10810 Jamie Mon, 11 May 2009 20:47:53 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/#comment-10810 @ Aubrey: That is a great question. Though I didn't have a serious boyfriend in college until I met my now-husband, I did date around before him, and had two long-term relationships in high school (one year and two years). I definitely don't think that makes me an expert, but the things in this article shares what I learned throughout my entire dating career. I'm glad you have someone to turn to for advice, and it sounds like your cousin wants to help you have strong healthy relationships. I agree with you (and her) that marriage is not something you should enter into lightly, at all, and my husband and I certainly did not. I can tell you from experience that it is very fulfilling but it also takes work--especially to grow together as a couple as you change instead of growing apart. Like most big decisions in life, it is very personal, and what might work well for one person would be horrible for another. I hope this answers your questions! And thank you for the suggestion about a guest writer! @ Aubrey: That is a great question. Though I didn’t have a serious boyfriend in college until I met my now-husband, I did date around before him, and had two long-term relationships in high school (one year and two years). I definitely don’t think that makes me an expert, but the things in this article shares what I learned throughout my entire dating career.

I’m glad you have someone to turn to for advice, and it sounds like your cousin wants to help you have strong healthy relationships. I agree with you (and her) that marriage is not something you should enter into lightly, at all, and my husband and I certainly did not. I can tell you from experience that it is very fulfilling but it also takes work–especially to grow together as a couple as you change instead of growing apart. Like most big decisions in life, it is very personal, and what might work well for one person would be horrible for another.

I hope this answers your questions! And thank you for the suggestion about a guest writer!

]]> By: Aubrey Keen http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/#comment-10784 Aubrey Keen Mon, 04 May 2009 20:48:20 +0000 http://www.survivingcollegelife.com/2007/12/20/five-college-relationship-mistakes-you-might-be-making/#comment-10784 I like your website, but I am a little confused by what perspective you can reasonably offer on relationships. You said you were single your first two years of college, but then got married after your third year in college? Assuming you started your relationship with your now-husband right at the beginning of your junior year, that still gave you less than a year together before getting married. Call me oldfashioned, but that is jumping into things. Besides that, my older cousin, who is now 32, has given me a lot of great relationship advice, and one of the key things she stressed was not to get married right out of college, even if you are in a great relationship in college. She said you change so much in your first 5 years out of college, it is really a shame to miss out on that time for personal growth and dating outside the "bubble" of college, when you are balancing a career and more real life. And because you change so much during that time, people can grow apart. She said now she is really seeing all the "perfect" couples she knew in college who got married right out of college separating and getting divorced. Maybe for this topic you could have a guest writer with a different perspective, having dated after college, write a piece to accompany yours. I like your website, but I am a little confused by what perspective you can reasonably offer on relationships. You said you were single your first two years of college, but then got married after your third year in college? Assuming you started your relationship with your now-husband right at the beginning of your junior year, that still gave you less than a year together before getting married. Call me oldfashioned, but that is jumping into things. Besides that, my older cousin, who is now 32, has given me a lot of great relationship advice, and one of the key things she stressed was not to get married right out of college, even if you are in a great relationship in college. She said you change so much in your first 5 years out of college, it is really a shame to miss out on that time for personal growth and dating outside the “bubble” of college, when you are balancing a career and more real life. And because you change so much during that time, people can grow apart. She said now she is really seeing all the “perfect” couples she knew in college who got married right out of college separating and getting divorced. Maybe for this topic you could have a guest writer with a different perspective, having dated after college, write a piece to accompany yours.

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