May 8th, 2009 Jamie
Your first (or second… or third…) summer back at home after nine months of independence can leave both you and your parents a little shell shocked. You’re used to making your own hours, doing your own thing-and Mom is used to you taking out the trash and being in bed by ten. Here’s how to navigate those first few weeks gracefully, and gear up for a great summer vacation.
Your ability to spend a peaceful three months at home is pretty much contingent upon your ability to compromise, so it’s important that you have a face-to-face chat with your parents ASAP.
Discuss what each of your expectations are for your summer stay: maybe you want a later curfew (or none at all), Mom wants you to walk the dog, and Dad doesn’t want to wake you up for work anymore. You’ll want to touch expectations for things like curfews, chores, obligatory family time (hey, enjoy it! My parents stopped inviting me on vacations in college!), privacy, meals, your allowance (or lack thereof), and the “requirements” of living at home (like having a job or cleaning up after dinner).
Try to find a balance that will make everyone feel comfortable-and be adult about it if you want to win brownie points for that later curfew!
It may be tempting to spend the first six weeks sleeping in and enjoying the comforts of home, but if you want to get a job this summer, you need to get out there and apply fast. With the economy tough and students all over pouring out of classes, your competition may be tougher this summer than ever before.
There are a lot of ways you can make a buck without having to sign on for something permanent. (See the posts on freelancing and making cash over school breaks!) Another great way to get a job back home is to have your parents network for you. They can ask their friends if they’re hiring for temp work, or even ask about Help Wanted signs they see posted. I got a second job at a hobby shop one summer mostly because my mom put in a good word for me.
I know you don’t want to think about this, but once you’re out of school, summer break is pretty much over for good. The work force doesn’t stop for summer. (Sad!) That said, make sure you make time for all the important things you REALLY want to do this summer. For example:
- Take a road trip,
- Spend time with your siblings (they miss you even though they can be pests) and parents,
- Reconnect with high school friends,
- Hit the beach or pool,
- Have a bonfire & eat s’mores (one of my summer to-do list staples!),
- Rekindle your hobbies before text book season returns, etc.
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